If you need help right now

  • If you have seriously hurt yourself or think you are about to seriously hurt yourself, call 999.  
  • If you need urgent help for your mental health but it is not an emergency, call 111.
  • If you need support, but it is not urgent, get in touch with your Doctor who will be able to help you find support.

If you feel like you are about to hurt yourself, there are things you can try to help keep your mind off acting on those feelings.


Trigger warning: It can sometimes be upsetting or triggering to read information about self-harm. Some of the information on this page may feel difficult to read or might cause strong or upsetting feelings. Please only continue reading if you feel safe to, you might want to come back to this page later on. 

What is self-harm?

Self-harm is when someone hurts themselves or injures their body. The reasons someone might self-harm can change over time, and they won’t be the same for everybody. If you self-harm or are thinking about self-harming, there is support available to you.

What can self-harm look like?

Self-harm can take lots of different forms. Sometimes it is clear that something you are doing is a form of self-harm, other times it can be harder to identify.

Self-harm can look like:

  • Cutting yourself.

  • Biting yourself.

  • Burning yourself.

  • Over exercising.

  • Getting into risky situations, such as fights.

  • Having unsafe sex.

  • Hitting yourself or hitting other things such as walls.

  • Overeating, undereating, or forcing yourself to be sick.

  • Picking or scratching at your skin, especially to the point of bleeding.

  • Poisoning yourself.

  • Pulling at your hair.

  • Not looking after yourself/self-neglect.

  • Using alcohol or other drugs.

This list isn’t exhaustive but if you’re doing something that is causing you harm, and you’re doing it to cope with difficult emotions, then this could be considered self-harm. You are not alone and there is support available for you.

Why do I self-harm?

People self-harm for different reasons, often due to something stressful or upsetting that is currently happening or something that happened in the past. Sometimes the reason is not always clear, but it is still causing upset or distress.

Some people might see self-harm as a way of dealing with challenging experiences, coping with emotional pain, trying to feel in control, a way of punishing themselves, a way of relieving distress, or as a signal for support and help. Or they might not know that they are actually hurting themselves.

Reasons people self-harm

Everyone’s experiences are different but often self-harm can be a sign someone is struggling with emotional pain and distress. Some of the causes of this stress include:

  • Living with mental health problems, such as depression, anxiety, personality disorder or bipolar disorder.

  • Abuse or bullying, which could be sexual, physical or emotional abuse.

  • A long-term illness or health problem.

  • Experiencing homophobia, biphobia or transphobia.

  • Low self-esteem.

  • Pressure at school or work.

  • Suicidal thoughts.

A lot of people struggle with self-harm, and as a GP, I see it often. When emotions feel overwhelming, it might seem like self-harm is the only way to cope. But you're not alone - there are other ways to get through tough times, and there are people, including your GP, who want to help. Please don’t be afraid to reach out for support.

Dr Amina Al-Yassin

GP

How can I stop myself self-harming?

Sometimes it might not feel like you can stop self-harming straight away, even if you want to. Finding techniques and different ways of coping, and the right support can help.

Support:

If you have seriously hurt yourself or are in immediate danger, call 999.

If you need urgent help for your mental health but it is not an emergency, call 111.

If you need support, but it is not urgent, get in touch with your Doctor who will be able to help you find support.

You can click here to see other support available to you, also.

Techniques to try if you’re feeling the urge to self-harm: 

The TIPP technique can be helpful to combat the urge to self-harm.

  • T – Temperature. Try and change your body’s temperature. You could do this by splashing your face with water, running your hands under cold water, or even stepping outside.

  • I - Intense exercise. If you can, getting your body moving can help. You could try sprinting, cycling, dancing, running up and down the stairs, or doing a home workout.

  • P - Paced breathing. Being mindful of your breathing can help you to feel calmer. Try breathing in for five seconds, hold for five seconds, breathe out for five seconds, hold for five, and then start again.

  • P – Progressive muscle relaxation. Tense and relax your muscles in pairs to help you relax. Start at the top of your body by tensing and then relaxing your face, then your arms, hands, stomach, legs, all the way down to your feet. For example, you could try making a fist with your hands, holding for five seconds, then releasing and spreading your fingers as wide as you can.

For more information about the technique and how it can help calm your brain and body, you can watch a video on the TIIP technique here.

Some people also find it helpful to distract themselves when they have the urge to self-harm. You could try something like going out for a walk, listening to music, watching a show, speaking to someone or doing something else. The feelings may start to come down after a while.

Advice from young people

Use other techniques to help yourself, keep yourself busy and try to focus on something different.

Young person

I squeeze ice to ground myself or put something cold around my eyes and forehead. I cuddle my dog and engage in paced breathing.

Young person

Things to help you stay safe in the long term

Speak to your Doctor

If you are self-harming it is best to let your GP know. They will be able to support you and to find you the right support which may include being offered counselling or therapy to help manage your feelings and help and advice for minor injuries.

If needed your GP may talk to you about a referral to CAMHS (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services) for an assessment or more treatment and help if needed.

You could also speak to your school’s pastoral care team. This could be a school counsellor, school nurse, your head of year or mental health support team if your school has one.

Talk to someone

You can talk to someone you know and trust or you can speak to a professional like a counsellor or school nurse. There are many places which offer confidential, non-judgemental support where you can talk about whatever is distressing you.

Letting someone know about your thoughts, plans, or experiences of self-harming can help you find and get support. Letting people in can feel hard but just know there is support out there for you, and you are not alone.

Click here to read advice on where to start when talking about self-harm.

Small mood boosters

When you’re in a good headspace, think about small mood boosters you can do when you are struggling with feelings of self-harm.

Write a list of small things you enjoy, that if you get the urge to self-harm, you could do without too much effort. It could be something like:

  • Listening to your current favourite song.

  • Cuddling a pet or take them on a walk.

  • Doodling or drawing.

Get outside

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, getting outside and focusing on your breathing can help calm your mind and body.

Whist you’re outside, think about the things you can see, hear, touch, and feel. This can be a nice way to ground yourself in the present moment, especially if your thoughts are feeling overwhelming.

You can find further advice on mindfulness, including breathing techniques and meditation, here.

Create a care box

Creating a care box can be a great way to have helpful items in one place, so if you do have the urge to, or do, self-harm, you can look after yourself.

You might want to think about including things like:

  • A snack or drink.

  • Something comforting like a blanket, hot water bottle, or comfort object.

  • First aid items, like bandages and plasters.

  • Headphones, if you like to listen to music.

  • A small notebook or colouring pencils to doodle or journal in.

  • The names and numbers of anyone you can trust and talk to.

  • Anything else that feels comforting to you.

Make a safety plan for when things feel too overwhelming

Some people can find it helpful to create a safety plan that they can go to and use when they are feeling overwhelmed. This can include whatever you think will be most helpful to you.

Working on this with a trained and trusted adult is best as it will help them to support you better and they will have good advice and thoughts about what to include. This could be a GP, counsellor or school nurse.

Generally, a safety plan includes:

  • Personal warning signs that you are starting to struggle.

  • Some ideas for coping strategies or things to help distract you.

  • Numbers and contact information of who you can speak to. This should include contact information for your family and friends as well as details of professional support. You can find a list of support services at the bottom of this page, or by clicking here.

  • Ways to keep yourself safe.

  • What to do in an emergency.

Below are two examples of safety plans which you might find helpful to use:

How do I talk about self-harm?

Advice

Letting someone know about your thoughts, plans, or experiences self-harming can help you find and get support.

It can take courage to open up and talk to someone about self-harm. But just remember, you are not alone and there is support available to you.

Find someone that you feel safe and comfortable with and think about how you would like to talk to them. This might be face-to-face, by text, writing some of your thoughts down, or on a call.

Speak to a friend or family member - do you have a friend or adult that you trust that you could speak to? It can be a difficult conversation, but the people in your life want you to be okay and will want to help support you in staying safe.

Speak to someone at your school - if you are struggling to find the words to say to someone close to you, speaking to a trusted adult at your school could be a good way to find support like a teacher, pastoral support staff, school nurse or counsellor.

Speak to your Doctor - you can speak to your doctor, and they will help you find the right support. This might be through managing your feelings, creating safety plans, or you might be offered counselling or therapy to help manage your feelings.

You can find more advice on how to talk about self-harm on the NHS website here.

Find support

Calm Harm

Calm Harm is a free app that provides support to help you resist or manage the urge to self-harm. 
The app can be downloaded from Google Play or the App Store.

Childline​​​

Childline is a free 24/7 hour service for if you need urgent support, or someone to talk to in confidence. You can speak to a counsellor anytime online or by phone about anything.

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Papyrus

If you're under 35 and struggling with suicidal thoughts, Papyrus's helpline is available 24 hours a day, every day of the year. You can call on: 0800 068 41 41, text: 07786 209697, or visit their website.

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How to access support

We are all wonderfully unique, which is why the right support will look different to everyone. There are lots of types of support, it’s all about finding out what’s going to be best for you.

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Feeling lonely

It’s normal to feel lonely sometimes. It can happen anytime, anywhere and to anyone. It can seem difficult to cope when you’re feeling lonely, but we have a few tips which may help. 

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Mindfulness and meditation

Life can be a lot of things: busy, fun, stressful, distracting and everything in between! It can be easy to get in your head and overthink things - thoughts and feelings can take over, and you might feel that you aren’t being present.

All of the information on this page was created with practising health professionals. This page was reviewed in April 2025. We will next review the page in 2028.

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