Published on
18 October 2021

With the start of our Adoption Week (18-24 October) we thought we’d take the opportunity to bust some of the more common myths that exist around adoption.  

“I’m too old”  

No such thing. If you’ve the energy to adopt lively children, then you are not too old to adopt.  

Legally potential adopters need to be over the age of 21, however, there is no legal upper age limit. Older adopters can bring significant life experience and ability to their adopting, and the young people involved can thrive under the steadying, calming influence of an older adoptive parent. 

All we ask is that you have the energy and experience to be able to meet the needs of the children throughout their childhood and hopefully beyond. 

“I’m single”  

Being single is not a barrier to adopting. Single people can make wonderful adoptive parents. 

Whether you’re single or in a couple, a homeowner or renting, a parent or not and whatever your marital status or sexual orientation – it really doesn't matter. It’s your ability to meet a young person’s needs that is important, not your marital status.  

As long as you want to make a difference to a child's life and have the time and commitment to support a child - you could be the special person they need. 

“I rent”  

No problem.  

Whether you have renting or a homeowner with a mortgage makes no difference to your ability to give a young person a secure, safe and loving place they can call home. 

We just ask that every child that you are going to adopt has their own room and that you can offer a safe and secure home environment for young people. If you can do that, then you can adopt. 

The important thing is that you have the time and commitment to care for a child or young person.  

“I’m male”  

Men can be great adoptive parents too. Approximately half of our adopters are men.  

The key thing is being able to model a healthy lifestyle for a child in your care. When a man adopts, he is able to present positive male role models for both male and female adoptive children.  

This adoptive relationship can have a hugely positive and therapeutic effect on many adopted children with fathers who may have been abusive or absent.  

“I’m LGBTQ+”  

Bring it on. We support all kinds of people in becoming adoptive parents, and welcome people who can bring a whole range of views, skills and life experience to the role. In fact, 13% of our adopters are gay and 6% are lesbian.  

Like your marital status, your sexual orientation is not important to us when we are figuring out your ability to give a home to an adopting young person. 

Some young people who need adopting identify as LGBTQ+ too - and we need adoptive parents to provide a safe and loving home, helping each child to thrive in their new environment. 

Success stories 

Adopting a child not only makes a positive difference to their life but to your own as well. Here are some prime examples:

Interested? 

If you think you have the space, energy and willingness to support children and young people who need your help, please send an enquiry using our online form below.  

Alternatively, you can call us on 0800 0277 280 - our phone lines are open from Monday to Friday between 9am and 5pm. 

Make a positive difference to a child’s life and your own.  

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