Helping you and your child cope with feelings about going back to school.

Some children and young people feel anxious or worried about returning to school. But thankfully, there are lots of strategies you can teach your child to help them cope. These are are designed to help when your child is feeling intense emotions.​​​​​​


Use the image to talk about anxiety. There are some examples of what anxiety may be like for you child. Use the blank bubbles for any other feelings they are experiencing.

Diagram of what anxiety can feel like

Grounding techniques

A grounding technique is a coping strategy for managing intense feelings and emotions. These techniques help to ‘ground’ us, which means they help us to notice the present moment we are in.

When we focus on our present moment this can reduce the intensity of the emotions and feelings we might be having. We focus less intensely on the future or on the past.

Each person is unique and will find different techniques that they like.

Discuss the suggestions with your child and practise the ones that they like. It is best to practise these techniques when your child is calm and practise them regularly. If the techniques have been regularly practised, then your child is more likely to remember them and use them when they feel intense emotions.

Mind, Physical and Soothing Strategies

Some techniques help because they ‘bring us up’ when our mood is low (upregulation). Other techniques help because they ‘bring us down’ or calm us when our mood is high, agitated or restless (downregulation).

Mind-based strategies for dealing with anxiety

Physical sensation strategies

Physical sensation strategies for dealing with anxiety

Soothing strategies

Soothing strategies for dealing with anxiety

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